He wasn't the person who hurt me most. But he shut me out, sent me away & then wondered why I wouldn't (couldn't) come back. And I'm over him. But not quite over the pain and frustration. The wounds are still there. but i have moved on :)
Or perhaps he is respecting your choice. By perpetuating this idea we are saying that no is yes and yes is yes. We are contributing to rape culture. No is exactly that no, don't play games don't expect mind readers and only your consent is acceptable.