Sadly, their 'love' is a tool (ab)used to manipulate you...to get what they want. It's an act. You think it's real, which is why you feel so much hurt to realize it's fake. Nobody who genuinely loves a person would EVER emotionally abuse you so callous and heartless. And deny it all! Then continue guilting and shaming you to run interference in effort to 'justify' their intentional abuse.