Cancer is a side effect of dying. It always will be, but it can not limit us. Hazel would tell you. Everything about cancer is a side effect. She will always live with it. She will always be dying. The question is how long will it take for it to not be a side effect any more and become her final destination like Augustus.
Do not wait by the phone for his call...you are worth his attention, and he is being rude and disrespectful to you if he just calls when he feels like it, expecting you to be doing nothing but waiting for him. Do not date for years on end expecting a proposal either...if you are ready and he isn't, move on.