What the fuck is this shit? First off, I dislike any notion of what a "real" man or woman should be. It's degrading, even when it's meant as a compliment. The only people who aren't "real" are imaginary, so stop with this demeaning bullshit. Also, what do you mean "won't let her"? Does the woman need permission? Does the man have absolute control over her actions? Enough with this sexist bullshit masked as sage wisdom or chivalry.